Repost from Jan 24, 2017
My last post was June of last year. Seven months ago. I feel like I’ve been to the moon and back.
You ever felt like you were caught up in a Kitchen Aid mixer set to medium high? Once turned off, life is a new mix. Am I truly back to blogging? I’m not sure, honestly. Blogging, editing, marketing take up a lot of time and head space that I find that I need to devote to my six children, ages 25, 22, 20, 17, 7 and 5.
What will 2017 be like for you? I don’t think you have any idea.
Can you guess how long it took all of us to get outside and how many shots my best friend had to take to get this one? My daughter Maria (fourth from left) announced after an Thanksgiving early dinner that we had a 20 minute window before the sun was in the wrong place. “Be outside in 15 minutes and look nice!” was her commandment. For outdoor photographers, it’s all about the lighting, I suppose.
You see that tall guy on the end? He’s our basketball player. Douglas is 6’6″. In fact, that’s one exciting reason why I haven’t blogged in over six months. He has an opportunity to be recruited to play in college. Basketball season is now year round for me and involves a lot of driving. We enrolled him in The Regents School of Charlottesville, where he had played basketball the previous season as a home schooled student. I began driving him down to “The Dell” at the University of Virginia to work out with Coach Geoff Reed, a former private school coach and other potential high school recruits. I packed up the two youngest boys and drove Douglas up to Pennsylvania to attend a HoopGroup Academic Elite Camp. It was an introduction to the new world of elite basketball.
Not only am I a chauffeur, but I’m now a videographer and video editor for basketball games! Check out this highlight film that I made of his December 2016 games. 😊
I never wonder if the time, money and sacrifice is worth helping someone pursue their dreams. As African-American poet Langston Hughes said, dreams are a “blue cloud cloth” that one must keep from the “too rough fingers of the world”. Do you have a kid with talent and the drive and desire to develop it? Help them. Do you have your own dreams on the shelf. Take them down. Sure, like me, you may have to put them back on the shelf sometimes, but if you live your life in the wind and trust that God has your best interests in his mind, then He’ll blow them off that shelf when it’s time.
I still home school my youngest boys and wow, do they have energy! For those of you raising kids under ten. Yeah, I know. It’s real. It’s realllllly tiring. It’s mental. It’s emotional. Some nights you sleep well; some you don’t. I’m feelin’ you.
But I’m not trading my days with those boys for anything else right now.
By the way, here’s a shout out to all of you young people learning about “adulting”, which is the choice phrase of my young millennials. I have a draft of a post called “What Is Adulthood?” Maybe I’ll get around to editing it, but I will say that watching the adult lives of my oldest three children is an education for me. When am I needed? When am I crowding their space? (#2 and #3 live with us right now) Should I share with them some suggestions without being asked? As a parent, am I still meeting their love language?
I’m grateful that my three oldest are still around so much. My oldest daughter, Christina, lives thirty minutes away but spends many weekends here at home. God has given me spontaneous conversations with them that have shown me the the treasure-laden depths of their souls and the amazing dreams they dream. What can I do? Be their #1 cheerleader…well my husband and I share the #1 spot, Lol.
One last word before I begin my day as a home educator. Doug and I have been married for twenty-six years. We’ve had our highs and lows. My advice for all of you who are married and raising kids is: Be transparent. Be emotionally honest about your triumphs and your failures. Extend mercy and grace to your spouse, because one day you may need it yourself. Be an active listener. Take time to hang out and DON’T talk about the kids! Demand nothing and pray about everything.
Try to hold your future plans or agenda loosely. Life has so many shifts. If you grip too hard, you may fall when they fall through. That’s how I live my life these days cause’ I really don’t know where life’s wind is blowing me. It’s certainly not a breeze. But it’s a blessing.
Matthew 7:24-26 “Therefore whoever hears these sayings of Mine, and does them, I will liken him to a wise man who built his house on the rock:and the rain descended, the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house; and it did not fall, for it was founded on the rock. “But everyone who hears these sayings of Mine, and does not do them, will be like a foolish man who built his house on the sand:
John 3:8 The wind blows where it wishes, and you hear the sound of it, but cannot tell where it comes from and where it goes. So is everyone who is born of the Spirit.”
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